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Post by idolhunter on Oct 21, 2005 23:25:28 GMT 8
Dear Uncles & Aunties My topic this time is something we can teach the young ones peeping inside here ;D We cannot rewind our lives back but we can rewind our thoughts back.... so care to share with our young ones here.... What you should or shoudn't have done  Maybe we can learn something... Need not write long stories....just short ones.. a small bit of your memories back then that u regreted.. So folks....let m start a simple one... I regret I was never close to my father... I seldom talk to him... becos he is very fierce n moody. but when he got older, he toned down..I should have visited him more and talk to him more when he has toned down... BUT I did not....n I held his hands and touched his forehead before he passed away... that was the closes thing I did....  I just want to share this with you...and I hope you young ones don't have the same regret that I had.. thanks for hearing me out.. |
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Post by lilywhite on Oct 21, 2005 23:51:28 GMT 8
Mine maybe is not childhood...but teenager time.... Parents sent me to 'U' in California when I was 19. After graduated, I went to Paris....to learn French...I love it there, wanted to settle down there, I stayed there for another 7 years....So, I was like 11 years away from my family.... One year, I came back for holidays....I left my wedding pic...I saw my dad was holding my wedding pic & rushed to the airport gave it to me....I looked at him..he was so sad, tears in his eyes...he said my mum was crying at home....I was so broken hearted at that time...so were they worried for me for 11 years?  Since then....I felt so depressed & regret...soon after, I've made plan to come back...don't know how long...but I am here now...to be with them..They r now 65 & 69...I want to cherish the moment with them....Because I love them very much.... PS: Feeling so sad now...  |
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Post by chilicandy on Oct 22, 2005 0:00:33 GMT 8
my regret...
yeah.. something to do with my dad too....
though i did spend quite a lot of time with him, but when i starts my own family, i was too engrossed in my own "new family" that somehow i see him and talk to him lesser and lesser...
i had always wanted to send him on some holiday trip which i had failed to do so when he is around, as i kept postponing things.... ( prob my greatest personality weakness)
second thing...
hmm... i do hav a little bit of regret, not continuing my study to form 6... i actually got a place in Form6, but because seing my parents works so hard to earn money ( we was very poor then), i dont feel like adding on to their burden... since getting money to buy books is so difficult, what more, some reference books? in fact i works to pay for my own tuitions fees when i was in form 5.
I still remember the day i told my parents i decided not to continue study to form 6, the disappointments in my father eyes, still haunts me to this day.... "what if" i had continues studies, i would had made him proud by continuing on to UNI.... those "what if" would always be there....
but though, i am the kind of person that once a decision is made, i never look back... i go ahead and make the best out of everything. Just that.... i feel sad to hav disappointed my dad...
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Post by sevelynn on Oct 22, 2005 0:11:07 GMT 8
Aunty lily u learn french? I'm learning french in college too! Comment allez vous? Vous etes belle!! Vous parlez francais? C'est magnifique!!! Haha... okok, dowan to boast here la.. sowie!
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Post by lilywhite on Oct 22, 2005 0:14:10 GMT 8
Aunty lily u learn french? I'm learning french in college too! Comment allez vous? Vous etes belle!! Vous parlez francais? C'est magnifique!!! Haha... okok, dowan to boast here la.. sowie! Hey OT lah.....still feeling very sad after writing the story. .....girls and boys...must cherish all the times with ur parents.... Sevelyn....tres bien. Vous etes tres intelligent aussi. |
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Post by chilicandy on Oct 22, 2005 0:59:03 GMT 8
"Comment allez vous? " reminds me of the stephen chow movie.... "ka -man-tar-lou-fu"...
yeah lily... parents are really dearest person in our life... sometimes being too wrap up with our own ongoing happenings daily life, we tend to neglects their feelings...
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Post by evonc on Oct 22, 2005 1:00:54 GMT 8
Im starting to luv this auntie and uncle thread..hehe.. Lots of experience to share and to be learned!
I wasnt close with my grandma eventhough i see her everyday. The feeling of disliking her always apppear whenever i see her as i always though that she's fussy, one sided and etc. My parents always scold me for being unkind but i just dont understand.
For weeks my grandma has been grumbling, asking my uncles and aunties to take her to buy funeral shirt and etc as she dreamt that her mother came and took her. But no one wants to do so cuz it was the 7th month in chinese calendar.
My dad decided to take my grandma to visit her old town, Johor to meet her old friends and relative. Still i was uncomfortable with her BUT something change my though and i did something for her for the 1st time.
Everything was normal as we came back and had dinner with everyone in the family. When i was awake the next morning, i got the news that my grandma past away.
Lesson: I regret that I only treat her good in the last moment. But what i know is, she is lonely and she need someone to talk too. Esp. everyone is out and come back at night.
**Sorry for the long boring story..
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Post by valen on Oct 22, 2005 1:01:39 GMT 8
Comment allez vous? Vous etes belle!! Vous parlez francais? C'est magnifique!!! Haha... okok, dowan to boast here la.. sowie! Hey OT lah.....still feeling very sad after writing the story. .....girls and boys...must cherish all the times with ur parents.... Sevelyn....tres bien. Vous etes tres intelligent aussi. Gutten morgen. Oops..that's german... ;D OK...let me share too. My dad is strict too and I seldom share emotions with him as I was mostly "afraid" of him. We seldom talk and when my mum goes to school in the afternoon, I will be alone with him and my brother at home. Always get scolding and mostly ask us to do well in our studies. As he was also a teacher in my school, the expectation of me to do well was high as I was supposed to compete against other school teachers' sons (also in same school as me). So...in a way that sort of push me...realised I had to do well...so, what I like about him is that he makes me study and do well in my exams..and I mostly did well in studies. However, my regret is that he didnot encourage us to do well in other fields..and didnot send me for music lessons, or piano...like my classmates...and I am totally not good in sports. And I wish I have a father I can really talk to....it's still slightly better now, but he's still keeping things to himself. So, this is one of my geram things. So..he has his good and bad points...so does everyone, I think. Anyone else have any story to share? |
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Post by chilicandy on Oct 22, 2005 1:08:11 GMT 8
Im starting to luv this auntie and uncle thread..hehe.. Lots of experience to share and to be learned! I wasnt close with my grandma eventhough i see her everyday. The feeling of disliking her always apppear whenever i see her as i always though that she's fussy, one sided and etc. My parents always scold me for being unkind but i just dont understand. For weeks my grandma has been grumbling, asking my uncles and aunties to take her to buy funeral shirt and etc as she dreamt that her mother came and took her. But no one wants to do so cuz it was the 7th month in chinese calendar. My dad decided to take my grandma to visit her old town, Johor to meet her old friends and relative. Still i was uncomfortable with her BUT something change my though and i did something for her for the 1st time. Everything was normal as we came back and had dinner with everyone in the family. When i was awake the next morning, i got the news that my grandma past away. Lesson: I regret that I only treat her good in the last moment. But what i know is, she is lonely and she need someone to talk too. Esp. everyone is out and come back at night. **Sorry for the long boring story.. well.. u are still way better than me.. since small child, we are not close at all to our grandparents... my paternal grandma passes away when my dad was 9. And my paternal grandpa remarry and we are not close to their new family... while my maternal grandparents hav too many childrens and grandchildren to care about ( big family ), so we are like keeping to our own family..without any grandparents to pamper us... i always envy those who had grandparents who loves them and spend time together with.. |
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Post by lilywhite on Oct 22, 2005 1:10:18 GMT 8
"Comment allez vous? " reminds me of the stephen chow movie.... "ka -man-tar-lou-fu"... yeah lily... parents are really dearest person in our life... sometimes being too wrap up with our own ongoing happenings daily life, we tend to neglects their feelings... Yes, I agreed with you....sometimes really feel that ...too wrapped up with our own ongoing life...anyway, I am here now....But whenever I think of the moment at the airport...I still cry in my heart....When I know more about how much she suffered...I couldn't forgive myself....sad! |
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Post by chilicandy on Oct 22, 2005 1:49:30 GMT 8
"Comment allez vous? " reminds me of the stephen chow movie.... "ka -man-tar-lou-fu"... yeah lily... parents are really dearest person in our life... sometimes being too wrap up with our own ongoing happenings daily life, we tend to neglects their feelings... Yes, I agreed with you....sometimes really feel that ...too wrapped up with our own ongoing life...anyway, I am here now....But whenever I think of the moment at the airport...I still cry in my heart....When I know more about how much she suffered...I couldn't forgive myself....sad! u still hav both of them around, still a chance to make up for the loss... i only had my mom now.... so consider, she untung more than my dad...  |
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Post by idolhunter on Oct 22, 2005 4:01:03 GMT 8
"Comment allez vous? " reminds me of the stephen chow movie.... "ka -man-tar-lou-fu"... yeah lily... parents are really dearest person in our life... sometimes being too wrap up with our own ongoing happenings daily life, we tend to neglects their feelings... Yes, I agreed with you....sometimes really feel that ...too wrapped up with our own ongoing life...anyway, I am here now....But whenever I think of the moment at the airport...I still cry in my heart....When I know more about how much she suffered...I couldn't forgive myself....sad! Lily, its not too late... as yr parents are still here... U can do something about it..  |
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Post by piggygrace on Oct 22, 2005 4:10:36 GMT 8
Childhood regrets??? can't recall what has happened much but I regretted for not studying to the max to get the maximum results which I know I can achieve with my level... I know I disappointed my family a lot!!! |
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Post by eemun on Oct 22, 2005 16:46:06 GMT 8
when i was standard 3, my schoolbus uncle organized a langkawi trip for students and family, at that time, i think for whole family, cost roughly 300++
and i heard bout this from uncle and i begged my parents to bring me to langkawi,
my dad said no money that time (300 was quite a big value that time)
i cried and begged and mad at my dad ... said him not sayang me enough etc ...
and my dad has got no choice but to bring the whole family there ...
even though this is just a simple story,
but i seriously feel like telling my dad "sorry"
i was having so nuisance and bad ... sorry~
but din manage to tell him sorry till now cause very embarassing ...
but i love him ...
he is the greatest man in the world ...
he supported my decisions all this while and he trusted my ability, he never questioned what am i up to, and provided me the best education ... thanks a lot ...
and i knew u re the one who kiss me every morning when i am still sleeping ... i just pretend that i dunno ... but thanks pa~
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Post by agentpink on Oct 22, 2005 17:02:39 GMT 8
I alwiz regret cuz i am a moody person..den whenever my mum kacau me..i'll raise my voice..den i hurt her..den i say sorry..but i noe tht is no use..but i cant do anything..i hate myself for being so moody..mayb i can go to any anger management class..i shud ler..haih..i love my mum..but when i am angry..things juz get out of hands..i am juz 17 n ppl say i am a pampered child..i agree..haih..hate myself now..
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