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Post by evonc on Oct 30, 2005 18:25:24 GMT 8
Ages ago when i got betrayed by friend"s", i would scream the hell out of them. Now, I'd think of 2 things before i do anything... 1.Does the thing that happen worth more than our friendship? 2.Was it me who cause the person to betray me? Why i ask myself that? Sometimes, what you see with ur eyes is not always the truth. And I consider it as a minor problem then I shall just leave it. After all, you may not find a friend who is as good/bad as him/her
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Post by teng on Oct 30, 2005 18:36:32 GMT 8
yeah meg . i still remember how i argue in school . " u better watch out . im not gonna friend u . asking every1 not to as well!! "
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Post by PureBliss on Oct 30, 2005 19:42:53 GMT 8
Speaking of betrayals.. i've had my share of that over the years.. most of it concerning relationships. This is just one of my experiences.. During college time, i've been betrayed by one of my so-called best friends. She and this guy were housemates and he liked her. I didn't know about this at all (until the end) as i thought they were just good frens. Then the guy started to show interest in me and started to ask me out. I thought it was genuine and i kinda enjoyed the attention too. So we became quite close and later he became by first bf. After couple of months.. he started avoiding me.. until one fine day, i confronted him. That's when i found out the bitter truth. That the only motive for him to get close to me was to get my so-called best fren jealous. Once he found out she's jealous, he just dumped me like that. Then later, i was to realise that my circle of frens (the gang that i hung out with) also knew about the truth but they didn't dare tell me. I was so mad at that time.. and thot how stupid and blind i've been. It was extremely painful then coz first love is supposed to be sweet, romantic and beatiful. Mine turned out to be so sour. Last i heard, they alrdy broke up after few years together. Sigh.. over the years, there's been a couple more betrayals. But i've sort of mellowed down alrdy. No longer bitter about the past coz if you keep thinking of the past, you'll never move forward. Also, religion plays an important part in opening our minds. To the young ones: if ever you feel as if the world has ended bcoz your bf / gf has betrayed you.. well, the world hasn't ended yet. You still have your life ahead of you. Cry and feel sad / angry for a moment only, then pick yourself up coz you will stand on your feet again. I always believe that if it's meant to be, then it's meant to be. If it's not, just set your heart free and move on. Be cool.
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Post by toothpaste on Oct 30, 2005 20:49:48 GMT 8
pure bliss..that must have been painful.. thanks for the advice.. the worst betrayal i had was probably backstabbing by people i thought were my best friends.. turns out they were telling me one thing in front and saying another to people behind my back.. it hurt so much at that time.... but time heals all pain..that experience taught me not to trust people so easily..
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Post by PureBliss on Oct 30, 2005 21:22:35 GMT 8
toothpaste >> hey, thanks. We take it as experience and move ahead. Life goes on.
Don't worry too much abt backstabbers. We will encounter that throughout our lives. Trust is definitely fragile. I am still not a good judge on character. We learn each day.
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Post by idolhunter on Oct 30, 2005 21:49:10 GMT 8
a blessing in disguise
When I read thru all the postings here, I find that most of them are very similliar.. personal secrets being exposed by friends.. Well you should thank god that it happened when u were young and still in school.. its actually a blessing in disguise....becos u smart up after that incident...and u know what to expose and what to keep to yourself... and that is very important in the real harsh world when you start to work and make a living for yrself... it is different from the school time...where the environment is stil under control.. but in the outside world it coule mean live and death... It's good to learn the lesson of betrayal young... That's just my 2 sen
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Post by agentpink on Oct 30, 2005 22:12:21 GMT 8
i read through all of them n i felt tht most ppl experienced wat i felt..cuz it wont hurt if ur so-so fren betrayed u..cuz itz like biasalah..but when itz ur bestfren(at least u tot she is) betrayed u,tht's wat hurt most..thanx for all ur advice..i'll move on...thanx chillicandy..thanx a lot
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Post by chilicandy on Oct 31, 2005 15:16:56 GMT 8
purebliss,
to hav that guy spoilt the sweetness of "first love"... so bad of him.... These "betrayals" happens when some people becomes selfish, and inconsiderate of our feelings and welfare... *sigh*
yeah, as what idolhunter mentioned, once u steps in the working society... the "betrayals" gets uglier and more horrible... but with those past experiences, you get toughened up and handles own emotions more better.
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Post by eemun on Oct 31, 2005 15:31:00 GMT 8
hahaha ... teng ... yea ... last time during primary school, this sentence is very popular "i dowan friend u", if not then "i ask XXX also dowan to friend u" so childish la ... hahahahaha ...
well, just wanna ask, did anyone of u lose a best friend because of arguing??? i have 2 collegues here, studying in the same class, they were very best friends, car pool together, sharing notes together, having discussion together, eat together ... and few months ago, after a small arguement, they couldnt talk anymore and one of them decided to end the relationship ... and until now, i am still very curious what's going on ...
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Post by PureBliss on Oct 31, 2005 15:52:36 GMT 8
purebliss, to hav that guy spoilt the sweetness of "first love"... so bad of him.... These "betrayals" happens when some people becomes selfish, and inconsiderate of our feelings and welfare... *sigh* yeah, as what idolhunter mentioned, once u steps in the working society... the "betrayals" gets uglier and more horrible... but with those past experiences, you get toughened up and handles own emotions more better. yeah.. that's right, chilicandy. Things do get uglier once we step into working life. There are many wolves in sheep's clothing running around.. haha. Somehow, kids this generation are much more street-smart and outspoken compared to years ago. I guess that's a good thing.
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Post by chilicandy on Oct 31, 2005 16:14:10 GMT 8
true PureBliss... the more they are outspoken, the more everyone arounds them can understand each other needs and emotions.
eemun, so far i've not loose best friend through arguing... just only my primary school time best friend and me drifted apart when we reaches secondary school. Kinda sad to think back, but i guess, when our needs and interest differs a lot, "drifting" is what happens quite normally..
i've seen two best friend working together becomes enemy... sad thing, but these things do happens when each other couldnt compromise on their pursue for careers positions...
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Post by VG^_^ on Oct 31, 2005 17:26:50 GMT 8
i also got betrayed by my best friend..i knew that is my fault...i just said sorry to her,....afterhat 1 month later she called me, i totally surprise,,,,and that time i told her , i won't do it anymore and also told myself don't simply play somebody....because we know our friendship are very very important and hard to find ,therefore until now i won't simply hurt somebody and always remember
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Post by agentpink on Oct 31, 2005 20:29:41 GMT 8
i guess being betrayed helped us to mature n b more careful. it also helps us to think wat is best for us n whether our decision is rite or wrong...we can learn to forgive but it is very hard to forget...no matter how u convinced urself tht itz over n tht u've forgave tht person,the feeling is still there..u can never b as close as u were b4..so itz better not to backstab anyone..itz hard to get back to the same relationship u once shared..the trust will not b as strong as before n it hurts to b so close to someone yet have to b careful wat we say..juz in case the history repeats itself...life is so unpredictable huh??
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Post by danielwong on Nov 1, 2005 0:04:16 GMT 8
the worst abt betrayal is by someone very dear to u... eg..best friends,bf or gf,spouse or your closest relatives.... i do have some experiences so far by friends close to me... at first the feeling is so pain n unbearable... i will feel very sad n stop seeing them anymore... i am very "small gas" type n put everything inside my heart.. but as years passed....i learned to put things down n be forgiven... no point to get upset n make myself unhappy... so for those being betrayed b4,learn to let things go... get on with life...as life still have many nice thing for us to treasure....
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Post by chilicandy on Nov 1, 2005 0:56:11 GMT 8
lol. "small gas"... i was that type when i am a teenagers.... even some friends commented me that i am behaving so... ;D
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