jintanmanis
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Post by jintanmanis on Oct 22, 2005 17:15:18 GMT 8
when i was standard 3, my schoolbus uncle organized a langkawi trip for students and family, at that time, i think for whole family, cost roughly 300++ and i heard bout this from uncle and i begged my parents to bring me to langkawi, my dad said no money that time (300 was quite a big value that time) i cried and begged and mad at my dad ... said him not sayang me enough etc ... and my dad has got no choice but to bring the whole family there ... even though this is just a simple story, but i seriously feel like telling my dad "sorry" i was having so nuisance and bad ... sorry~ but din manage to tell him sorry till now cause very embarassing ... but i love him ... he is the greatest man in the world ... he supported my decisions all this while and he trusted my ability, he never questioned what am i up to, and provided me the best education ... thanks a lot ... and i knew u re the one who kiss me every morning when i am still sleeping ... i just pretend that i dunno ... but thanks pa~ Ee Mun sweetie, I am so touched after reading your confession that I am all misty eyed.You are a real good girl n I'm sure your dad is very proud of u and very 'fong sum' that u can think this way. I too love my dad very very much but he passed away when I was 10years old.I am 49 this year by the way. No need to hide the age already lo...since we now have an Aunties n Uncles page...hee! hee! I was the eldest of a family of 3.I miss him so much till today.Uncannily I remembered most of the things my dad n us used to do n I remembered whenever each time my dad say that I'm a big girl n will be married one day I'll cry n promised my dad I'll never marry.My only regret is my dad didn't get to see me happily married with a wonderful husband n 2 wonderful tho (tiresome. ..referring to Jap Boy)kids lo! I still have a most wonderful mum who has sacrificed so much to hold the family together.She is 67 yrs old this year.We are very close n I call back at least once a week to chat with her...even hear all her tiniest complains n show loads of patience bec when mums talk they always sound like nagging.......or is it just me....i'e when I talk too much my Jap Boy says I nag ? . ..I think that is their way of talking to us.....maybe they r so used to teaching/reprimanding us......
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Post by eemun on Oct 22, 2005 17:25:55 GMT 8
dear jintamanis~
ur jap boy actually loves u very much and u re the most important person in his heart ... i once asked him before "u dare enough to do piercing etc, and yet when we asked u out, u scared to ask permission from ur mom?" and he gave me a very touching reply which made me think that he actually put u as the first place in his heart ... =)
pm u the "reply" he gave me k? this is our secret ... hehe ...
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Post by megdalyn on Oct 22, 2005 17:28:22 GMT 8
"....i'e when I talk too much my Jap Boy says I nag "
aunty.. my mom always call bak every weekend.. the fisrt thing she say to me is.. got study o not? got listen to ur grandma o not?? i listen til i sien d.. everyweekend same thing.. got nth else to say d one.. den i wil start saying my mom NAG at me all the time.. but.. den.. deep inside my heart.. i noe my mom cares for me.. n love alot too.. jap boy maybe feeling the same too kua.. haha. almost all the teenagers are like dat.... v noe wat v r doing.... don be to worry bout us.. we noe how to think d one.. hehehe...
"tiresome." guys are always harder to jaga den gurls rite?? hahaha.. gurls very scared of their father one.. so must be guai lui .. guys .. dono.
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Post by megdalyn on Oct 22, 2005 17:29:34 GMT 8
dear jintamanis~ ur jap boy actually loves u very much and u re the most important person in his heart ... i once asked him before "u dare enough to do piercing etc, and yet when we asked u out, u scared to ask permission from ur mom?" and he gave me a very touching reply which made me think that he actually put u as the first place in his heart ... =) pm u the "reply" he gave me k? this is our secret ... hehe ... chey!!! i oso wanna noe! tel me oso!!!
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Post by nicky on Oct 22, 2005 18:32:31 GMT 8
Im starting to luv this auntie and uncle thread..hehe.. Lots of experience to share and to be learned! I wasnt close with my grandma eventhough i see her everyday. The feeling of disliking her always apppear whenever i see her as i always though that she's fussy, one sided and etc. My parents always scold me for being unkind but i just dont understand. For weeks my grandma has been grumbling, asking my uncles and aunties to take her to buy funeral shirt and etc as she dreamt that her mother came and took her. But no one wants to do so cuz it was the 7th month in chinese calendar. My dad decided to take my grandma to visit her old town, Johor to meet her old friends and relative. Still i was uncomfortable with her BUT something change my though and i did something for her for the 1st time. Everything was normal as we came back and had dinner with everyone in the family. When i was awake the next morning, i got the news that my grandma past away. Lesson: I regret that I only treat her good in the last moment. But what i know is, she is lonely and she need someone to talk too. Esp. everyone is out and come back at night. **Sorry for the long boring story.. hmm similiar story but I was much closer to my grandmother... I always hanged out with her like my best friend and all... she took me where i wanted to go and well basically pampered me... she passed away when i was in form3... well this is what i truely regret...during her final days when she was in hospital... not yet in ICU... she told me "bye bye" at that moment i couldn't accept it... and i kinda stayed away from her and did not dare to go near her afraid she'd say those things again... did not let her tell me what she really felt... 2 days later she was admitted into ICU... they put her on to life support and put her into an artificial coma... I hoped she would get better but that never happened till today i regret hiding and not listening to her final words... I really loved her alot... sometimes cry at night thinging about it...
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Post by ziggy on Oct 22, 2005 20:06:12 GMT 8
When i was still schooling, i have quite an interest in art and music but my late father was not very encouraging about it. He used to say "benda-benda macam tu tak menjamin masa depan". So it was all maths and science throughout schooling. However, three years ago, I took a great turn in my career by plunging myself into the art & craft, after spending more than 25 years in the technological field. I would say that i'm much happier now. But I regretted that i did not take this bold step, much earlier in my career life. Never mind, its better late then never. I'm glad that Daniel took the challenge of participating in the MI2. Otherwise he would have not known what he is capable of doing in the Music Industry. I'm sure he will not regret it
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Post by hoyohoyo on Oct 22, 2005 20:59:05 GMT 8
When i was still schooling, i have quite an interest in art and music but my late father was not very encouraging about it. He used to say "benda-benda macam tu tak menjamin masa depan". So it was all maths and science throughout schooling. However, three years ago, I took a great turn in my career by plunging myself into the art & craft, after spending more than 25 years in the technological field. I would say that i'm much happier now. But I regretted that i did not take this bold step, much earlier in my career life. Never mind, its better late then never. I'm glad that Daniel took the challenge of participating in the MI2. Otherwise he would have not known what he is capable of doing in the Music Industry. I'm sure he will not regret it Wow.... you are cool and daring to turn working in arts & craft..... i always admire such people anyway..... ;D
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Post by ziggy on Oct 22, 2005 21:25:40 GMT 8
When i was still schooling, i have quite an interest in art and music but my late father was not very encouraging about it. He used to say "benda-benda macam tu tak menjamin masa depan". So it was all maths and science throughout schooling. However, three years ago, I took a great turn in my career by plunging myself into the art & craft, after spending more than 25 years in the technological field. I would say that i'm much happier now. But I regretted that i did not take this bold step, much earlier in my career life. Never mind, its better late then never. I'm glad that Daniel took the challenge of participating in the MI2. Otherwise he would have not known what he is capable of doing in the Music Industry. I'm sure he will not regret it Wow.... you are cool and daring to turn working in arts & craft..... i always admire such people anyway..... ;D Thanks. Yeah, it was very crazy..but the story went into the english and malay newspapers a couple of years ago ;D
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Post by bubble on Oct 22, 2005 22:18:34 GMT 8
Dear Uncles & Aunties My topic this time is something we can teach the young ones peeping inside here ;D We cannot rewind our lives back but we can rewind our thoughts back.... so care to share with our young ones here.... What you should or shoudn't have done Maybe we can learn something... Need not write long stories....just short ones.. a small bit of your memories back then that u regreted.. So folks....let m start a simple one... I regret I was never close to my father... I seldom talk to him... becos he is very fierce n moody. but when he got older, he toned down..I should have visited him more and talk to him more when he has toned down... BUT I did not....n I held his hands and touched his forehead before he passed away... that was the closes thing I did.... I just want to share this with you...and I hope you young ones don't have the same regret that I had.. thanks for hearing me out.. idolhunter...thanks for your advise...but i don think i can't get close to my father...from small till now...what i can say is i dislike him...why? because he did'nt really care of my health and my life...what he care of is just my exam result. you know what? i've already didn't met him for almost 1 year!!! start from the day of chinese new year till now! not i dowan see him,but he is keep on avoiding us! avoiding us to get some money for school from him! besides,what he really care is his son! His son is different mom with me! could u imagine that a father that don really remember about his children age,birthdate and the most terrible is,NAME!!! haih...anyway...he doesn't care my mom,my sisters and me...then why shall i care him so much? no point for me to do so...in my life...i just close to my mom,granma and my sisters
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Post by hoyohoyo on Oct 22, 2005 22:32:17 GMT 8
Wow.... you are cool and daring to turn working in arts & craft..... i always admire such people anyway..... ;D Thanks. Yeah, it was very crazy..but the story went into the english and malay newspapers a couple of years ago ;D Cooooool!!!!!! ;D
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Post by valen on Oct 23, 2005 1:35:31 GMT 8
when i was standard 3, my schoolbus uncle organized a langkawi trip for students and family, at that time, i think for whole family, cost roughly 300++ and i heard bout this from uncle and i begged my parents to bring me to langkawi, my dad said no money that time (300 was quite a big value that time) i cried and begged and mad at my dad ... said him not sayang me enough etc ... and my dad has got no choice but to bring the whole family there ... even though this is just a simple story, but i seriously feel like telling my dad "sorry" i was having so nuisance and bad ... sorry~ but din manage to tell him sorry till now cause very embarassing ... but i love him ... he is the greatest man in the world ... he supported my decisions all this while and he trusted my ability, he never questioned what am i up to, and provided me the best education ... thanks a lot ... and i knew u re the one who kiss me every morning when i am still sleeping ... i just pretend that i dunno ... but thanks pa~ eemun...u must be the budak manja... ;D
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Post by jwong on Oct 23, 2005 3:43:06 GMT 8
idolhunter...thanks for your advise...but i don think i can't get close to my father...from small till now...what i can say is i dislike him...why? because he did'nt really care of my health and my life...what he care of is just my exam result. you know what? i've already didn't met him for almost 1 year!!! start from the day of chinese new year till now! not i dowan see him,but he is keep on avoiding us! avoiding us to get some money for school from him! besides,what he really care is his son! His son is different mom with me! could u imagine that a father that don really remember about his children age,birthdate and the most terrible is,NAME!!! haih...anyway...he doesn't care my mom,my sisters and me...then why shall i care him so much? no point for me to do so...in my life...i just close to my mom,granma and my sisters Hi everyone... I've seen this thread, and I had struggled, thinking thru my life to try to aritculate something that when shared will be beneficial...... I think the title REGRET speaks for itself..... My regret, so many..... I shall just hop on one... I come from a poor family, my dad was a bus driver, and my mum operates a home-based hairdressing salon... As a child, I somehow decided that I will study hard and do well in my studies... At the time, I decided in my young mind that that's my reward for my parents (my mother actually, coz I felt that she's the one who work hard.) Fast forward and I was in my early twenties, doing articleship in an accounting firm. I still had exams, on top of work... And then one day, we discovered that my mum had cancer. Though I was an adult, I was quite stupid, I was naive and just think that she will get well.... And in the mean time, my focus on my work and studies continue nevertheless. Even when it was my turn to sit with her in the hospital, I brought my books to study... One year on, and my mother died.... Never once did she complain or cry, she was strong so that we would not be afraid. (reminds me so much of Endon).... When she died, I was rudely awoken from my makebelieve world. My mother is dead..... At the time, I had relatives who reminded me that I was not how-s'urn. I wept in my heart... The regret of not showing her love and caring for her, the regret of being so wrapped up with myself...... So a part of me died along wiith her.... Oh yeah, and then there was my dad. He was the reason for a lot of the financial hardship in our home. In my heart, I hated him and oftne wished that it was he who died, not my mum. I harboured unforgiveness in my heart towards him. I quarrel with him, show him no respect.... I perform my duty as in giving him pocket $$ and sponsor his holidays and things like that. Nothing more..... While I was having my 'revenge' on my dad, I never felt good, not even for a moment.... Hurting him did not bring me peace, only more hate..... And then what happen??? Sorry to say this at a forum like this. But the turning point for me was when I accepted Jesus as my savior. I learnt from Him that I must forgive. Forgiveness is a choice, a decision. It was not easy. As time goes by, I begin to realise that my dad had his own struggle too, I try to understand him.... Still it wasnt easy. But then I remember how sorry I was when my mother died. I then started thinking, do I want to take the chance with my dad? Do I want to withhold forgiveness and love from him? What if when he dies, I regret not forgiving him??? In the end, I decided to forgive. I choose to ignore the things that he did wrong. My dad now had passed away for I think like about 8 years or more. I am glad to say that while he was sick, in his last days, he could tell my family members among his children that I really care for him... Forgiveness is a gift we give to those who have hurt us. Not because they deserve it. Otherwise it wouldnt be a gift. And when we forgive, we are set free!!! Set free to love. Wouldnt it be more beautiful?
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Post by ziggy on Oct 23, 2005 8:10:33 GMT 8
thanks jwong, for sharing that experience. I'm sure we can learn something from it.
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Post by eemun on Oct 23, 2005 10:34:08 GMT 8
valen : budak manja? haha, sort of, cause im the only gurl he has, sandwiched by two brothers ...
bubble : thanks for sharing ur story ... i admire ur courage of disclosing ur background and i think u re great!
i cant comment much bout this but can only tell u that ... u will lead a more happy and better life if u could forget all the past ... =) be happy and learn to forgive bubble~
angry with someone is very tiring ...
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Post by bubble on Oct 23, 2005 12:15:06 GMT 8
valen : budak manja? haha, sort of, cause im the only gurl he has, sandwiched by two brothers ... bubble : thanks for sharing ur story ... i admire ur courage of disclosing ur background and i think u re great! i cant comment much bout this but can only tell u that ... u will lead a more happy and better life if u could forget all the past ... =) be happy and learn to forgive bubble~ angry with someone is very tiring ... not i dowan to get close with him...but he didn't give me the chance...everytime when he saw us,sure he will scold us without any reason. besides,he dowan to visit us,dowan ti pick up the phone that we call for him,so,how to get close to him? last time i really wanna forget all the past...but everything seems useless when he say i tell lie to him while i didn't! to this father,what can i say is just disappointed...
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